How to be sexy woman without misunderstand

How to be sexy woman without misunderstand

Forget unflattering sweatpants, frumpy jeans or even out-of-style suits. Looking good will not only help you score points with the hot guys in the office, it will help you get noticed by your boss -- but not so much that she calls HR. After all, looking sexy while maintaining a professional polish couldn't hurt.

Start by reworking the tired old sweater set/skirt combo into a fresh and feisty look. Choose a shirt that is fitted to the extreme. That means that you keep going down a size until the buttons over your chest start to pucker. Then buy the shirt that is one size above that -- guaranteeing the tightest shirt possible without looking like you've grown out of it. This ABS blouse is perfect because the long sleeves make it office appropriate yet the lace under the bust gives the shirt a casually sexy and inviting feeling.

You don't need a mini skirt to show off your legs. You can pair up your fitted top with a variety of bottoms depending on your mood. Check out Girlshop's denim skirt. It goes below the knee, but the fitted cut will show off your curves -- and the best part is that it's strategically faded to make you look even slimmer!

Just like you found your sexy shirt, use this sizing guide for finding the perfect pants: Try the smallest pair on as possible and then look at your butt. If you can see your thong outlined, the seam busting or a line directly under your rear -- they are too small. Only go up a size until you see a smooth yet curvy silhouette. Laundry Herringbone Striped Pants will be like a shot of espresso when you walk in the door! Don't be surprised if your office crush stops by or you get compliments from strangers.

On dates

The most important thing about looking sexy on a date (aside from wooing your man) is that you don't look obvious. You want to look like you wake up, eat and sleep sexy. He doesn't need to know that you spent an hour at the nail salon, $100 dollars at your hairdresser and another two hours primping. But, don't overdo it. An outfit that looks like you borrowed it from Pamela Anderson's closet will make it seem like you are trying way too hard.

While you might get him interested that night, it could be for all the wrong reasons. These tips will help you look "accidentally sexy."

If you really want to go for "the innocent, but really not so innocent" look, try this Betsey Johnson slip dress from Bluefly.com. The spaghetti straps will showcase your shoulders, and the form-fitting bodice will keep his eyes glued to all the right areas. But, the color and length deem this dress appropriate for anything!

On the town   

Out on the town often means dressing to the nines, dancing and meeting a lot of men. These evenings call for a look that makes you feel hot (or at least hotter than your friends). But, you don't want to start a "who can dress skimpier" contest. Quality over quantity is a good rule of thumb.

Some guidelines: Sheer shirt with no bra=slut. See-through (or netted) white shirt with black bra=tacky. Backless tank with full front coverage=sexpot. These style tips below will help get you into the trendiest clubs -- and get you home with most phone numbers.

Shopbop.com's Trina Turk Gigi Camisole will make you a sex kitten extraordinaire with its hot lace detail. You can take that theme to the max when you couple it with a pair of tight jeans and these Sudini Diamond Boots from Nordstrom.com.

Working it when you're working out

There is nothing more annoying than an overtly slutty outfit at the gym. If isn't hard enough to get motivated to go to the gym only to get stuck running side-by-side a skinny little twig in a thong leotard with leopard prints. The good news is that most men don't find underweight, underfed and underdressed sweaty women at the gym attractive. And no one finds leotards attractive, so you can put those aside for Halloween or '80s-themed parties.

Men are more inclined to notice those of us who work it right while we are working out. That means showing off the curves, lifting the chest and sucking in the stomach. Here is an outfit that will help you make this happen.

Reebok's Criss Cross Bra Top is perfect for showing off your hard earned physique while offering the support and quality that you really need. Slightly padded with clean criss cross lines, this bra is designed to make you look good in all the right places.

Couple the top with a pair of Reebok Wrap Dance pants and you'll be the height of fashion. The trick here is to watch for unsightly underwear lines -- if worst comes to worst, leave your panties in the locker room.

Here is the final checklist for looking sexy (not slutty):

1. Wear soft, inviting (touchable) fabrics all the time.

2. Steer clear of the obvious -- like ultra short or sheer. Let slits and well-cut clothes do your talking.

3. Always try on your clothes and don't be afraid to go down (or up) a size.

4. Team something sexier with something more conservative if you are concerned about taking your look too far.

5. Look for clean lines (no bulging bra or panty lines).